Parents in Ohio understand that raising a child is anything but easy, even if it is a joyous experience. Parenting issues and challenges are often magnified in the divorce process. Not only are parents often attempting to establish a fair child custody arrangement, but they are often also seeking to maintain their parenting skills and status as a parent. At times, emotions and disputes can get the best of a spouse, and they could fuel wrong or improper behavior. Children are often used as pawns in a game of spite and anger by a parent who is trying to make parenting more challenging for their ex-spouse. Such actions can make it difficult for everyone involved.
For ex-spouses struggling with child custody arrangements, it is important they regain their focus on their child and begin to develop a co-parenting relationship with their ex. A collaborative law approach could significantly help with major decision-making regarding child custody and parenting. A current issue that divorced parents are facing is deciding how a child spends their free time and what privileges they have. By working together, parents could come to a fair and workable plan.
It can be difficult to monitor technology use when parenting time varies from week to week. The first thing that needs to be established is a fair and workable plan, although setting up a concrete plan for the week can be challenging if ex-spouses do not communicate effectively. Furthermore, if one parent does not have primary custody, they might use technology to treat their child when they see them. This could lead to further disputes and complications.
This can cause a child to ask why one parent allows them to use technology more than the other. It is important to realize that each parent can have different technology rules so long as the child understands it and they are aware that it is okay to have different rules at each house.
It has been noted that technology can be very addictive for children, so they should not go through an addiction and withdrawal cycle. This means that one parent should likely not control the technology use. Furthermore, it may be difficult to enforce a strict plan, so it may often best to be flexible, reasonable and fair when devising a plan with an ex and children.
When children are involved in the divorce process, many post-divorce issues can present themselves. Talking through issues is important, and if children are age appropriate, they could be involved in the conversation regarding the issue. This might mean additional plan making, counseling or even mediation to modify the arrangement.
Source: Huffington Post, “6 Ways to Manage Children’s Technology Use With Shared Physical Custody,” Dr. Kate Roberts, Mar.5, 2014