If you were one of the many people who decided to file for divorce in January (after all, this is the month where more divorces are initiated than any other), you have probably encountered some strong opinions about your decision. Some may believe that you should have tried harder to save the marriage, others will wonder how it will affect the children (if there are kids in the marriage). Regardless of what people say, few can understand the difficulty of being in a dying marriage than those who are in them.
In essence, people will hold onto preconceived notions about divorce no matter how uninformed or ridiculous they may be. With that, we will set forth some of the most frustrating beliefs, as well as why they are wrong.
A person must get permission to get divorced
Unlike some of the daytime soap opera romances, a person does not have to “ask” for a divorce in order to end a marriage. Once a person files a petition for dissolution, the other person cannot stop it by simply not agreeing to the divorce.
Adversarial divorces are the norm
Uncontested and collaborative divorces (i.e. divorces that are not adversarial) are becoming more of the norm than divorces marred with protracted litigation. If you and your soon-to-be ex-spouse agree on most things and simply want to move on with life, you are not considered weird.
Divorce is the end of your world
If constant fighting and depression is your world; then yes, divorce is the end of the world. At the same time, it is a new beginning that most people look forward to enjoying.
Source: HuffingtonPost.com, “21 Ridiculous things people believe about divorce,” January 10, 2014